98: How The Enneagram Can Deepen Your Marriage Connection with Jeff and Beth McCord

May 4, 2020

Have you ever felt like you don’t understand your spouse? Have you ever wondered why your spouse handles a situation in a completely different manner than you would? Do you wish for a closer connection, but don’t know how to get there?

In Episode 98, Daniel and Christina interview Enneagram coaches, Beth and Jeff McCord, about how the Enneagram can give you the language to communicate with your spouse, the empathy to understand your spouse, and the tools to help defuse conflicts before they start with your spouse.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

Ways to improve communication with our spouse by using the Enneagram
Our core motivations: core fear, core desire, core weakness, core longing
What it means to become our best self
How to help our spouse to become their best self
How to affirm and love our spouse

Resources Mentioned During the Episode:

Looking to find your Enneagram Type? Here is a free Enneagram test you can take from Beth and Jeff McCord
Richard Rohr’s Book: The Enneagram: A Christian Perspective
Check out Beth and Jeff’s book: Becoming Us: Using The Enneagram To Create A Thriving Gospel Marriage
If you want to explore more about your Enneagram type, take the Discovering You course
If you want to become the best version of yourself, take the Exploring You course
Interested in finding out how the Enneagram can transform your marriage? Take the Becoming Us course
Want to become an Enneagram certified coach? Take the Become An Enneagram Coach certification
For more information about The Enneagram, go to yourenneagramcoach.com
Listen to more Enneagram episodes:

Quotes and Tweets:

Don’t use the Enneagram as a sword – to put your spouse in a box, to criticize them, put them down, or remind them of all the ways that they are unhealthy. @enneagram_coach
Don’t use the Enneagram as a shield – to defend, justify, or excuse to your behavior. @enneagram_coach
The Enneagram gave us the language to explain what we were thinking and feeling; it helped us address the why behind all of it. @enneagram_coach
Much of the time, the root of conflict comes from not truly knowing and understanding the heart of your spouse (and their motivations). enneagram_coach
69 percent of all conflicts have no right answer. @gottmaninst
A vision we give to others of who and what they could become has power when it echoes what the spirt has already spoken into their souls. @drlarrycrabb
For those of us who avoid conflict at any cost, our next challenging step is to engage, in love. Our neglect harms our marriages. enneagram_coach
We all have a choice to make. We can be frustrated and angry when conflict happens, or we can trust the Holy Spirit to use conflict to help us grow in alignment with Him. enneagram_coach

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Meet Jeff and Beth McCord :

Beth and Jeff McCord are the founders of Your Enneagram Coach, a community designed to be a safe place for individuals to explore a Christ-centered Enneagram. Through their teaching, they guide individuals, couples, and groups to self-awareness and life-enhancing growth. Their mission is to help people see themselves with astonishing clarity, so they can break free from self-condemnation, fear, and shame through the unconditional love, forgiveness, and freedom in Christ. With their Becoming Us marriage book, course curriculum, date night events, and retreats, the McCords combine their more than 20 years of marriage wisdom, pastoral experience, and Enneagram studies to provide a roadmap for couples to break free from unhealthy patterns, align their marriage with the Gospel, and grow into the couple God designed them to be. Beth and Jeff live in Nashville, Tennessee, with their kids, Nate and Libby. For more information about the Enneagram or the McCords, go to yourenneagramcoach.com