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83: The Lies We Believe About Marriage

January 20, 2020

On the surface, while the Internet, smartphones, and the rise of the gig economy appear to be connecting us with one another, they’re actually doing the very opposite. They’re exacerbating the problems of disconnection, isolation, and loneliness. We are more disconnected than ever before, which is leading to a decline in trust. And the more disconnected and untrusting we become, the more we are going to turn inward and become unhealthily obsessed with ourselves. 

Marriage is about unity, oneness, and should be the opposite of selfishness. On Episode 83, Daniel and Christina walk through two of the common lies that we believe about marriage reframed as half-truths: You are who you know and You are what you experience. These two lies are from Daniel’s new book, You Are What You Do: And Six Other Lies about Work, Life, and Love.

 

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In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

  • Daniel’s latest book, You Are What You Do and Six Other Lies About Work, Life, & Love
  • The lies we believe about marriage 
  • The negative sides of believing that you are who you know and you are what you experience
  • Why we need to overcome these lies and how to overcome them

Resources Mentioned During the Episode:

  • Grab a copy of Daniel’s new book, You Are What You Do and Six Other Lies About Work, Life, & Love
  • Listen to Episode 82: The Lies We Believe About Ourselves where we go more into depth about the lies “You are what you do” and “You are your past”

Quotables & Tweetables:

  • “On the surface, while the Internet, smartphones, and the rise of the gig economy appear to be connecting us with one another, they’re actually doing the very opposite. They’re exacerbating the problems of disconnection, isolation, and loneliness.” @danielsangi
  • “If we’re not careful, chasing after experiences can become a god in our lives.” @danielsangi
  • “Comparisons is a zero sum game. Underneath it all, there is no end to this lie. There is always more comparison. Instead of quenching the flames of jealousy and envy in our hearts, experiences end up fanning them.” @danielsangi
  • “And while freedom is the allure of the gig economy— that you will have more flexibility in your schedule to spend time with your loved ones, and money to spend on experiences—it actually leads to the opposite.”@danielsangi
  • “Just consider the free time or downtime that you used to have after work to invite friends over for dinner, to talk with your neighbors, or go to the lake with your family on the weekends. Haven’t you replaced some or all of it with hustling, grinding, and working on the side, so that you’ll have more money to spend time with them . . . at some point in the future?” @danielsangi

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