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69: Enneagram and Communication Styles with Lauren Gray

June 24, 2019

Have you ever been in a conflict with someone? Have you ever felt misunderstood or not heard? Does conflict make you want to run away or grab your boxing gloves because you are ready to fight? In Episode 69, Daniel and Christina interview Lauren Gray (certified Enneagram coach) about how each type communicates and how to approach each type when you are in conflict with them. This interview is JAM packed with amazing advice that we had to split it into two episodes! Make sure to tune in next week for part 2.

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In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

  • A deeper dive into what the Enneagram is
  • How types one through five approach communication
  • The do’s and don’ts about approaching Enneagram types one through five when you are in conflict with them

What Does the Enneagram Look Like?

Image taken from: enneagraminstitute.com

Resources Mentioned During the Episode:

  • For a free Enneagram Test, please click here 
  • For a paid Enneagram Test (which will be more accurate), check out The Enneagram Institute Testing Center
  • Listen to our previous Enneagram interview with Dr. Drew Moser about The Perfect Gift For Every Enneagram Type
  • The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery by Ian Cron and Susan Stabile
  • The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships by Helen Palmer
  • Between us: Using The Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel Centered  by Beth and Jeff McCord
  • Listen to our previous podcast episode with Lauren Gray about The Enneagram and Communication Styles 
  • Check out The Enneagram Journey with Susan Stabile
  • Listen to Typology with Ian Cron
  • Find out more about Lauren Gray via her website and Instagram @laurenelkinsgray
  • Listen to more episodes about the Enneagram:
    • Episode 51: The Perfect Gift For Every Enneagram Type
    • Episode 70: Resolving Conflict With The Enneagram
    • Episode 98: How The Enneagram Can Deepen Your Marriage Connection

Quotables:

  • “The Enneagram gives us nine different lenses for how people are viewing the world. The lens you are seeing the world through and communicating through is going to be very different than someone else.” – Lauren Gray
  • “The Enneagram can help us de-personalize some things to the point where we don’t take offence when it’s just somebody’s approach.” – Lauren Gray

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Meet Lauren Gray:

If it’s about growth and the Enneagram, Lauren Gray has you covered!  She cheers people on while helping them break the unconscious patterns keeping them from success in life and business.  She lives in Nashville with her husband, Matt, and three kids, Ryman, Porter, and Chandler.  In her spare time, you can usually find her with a podcast playing, taking the kids to the park, or tackling some sort of project at home. To find out more about Lauren, check out her Instagram @laurenelkinsgray and her website www.laurenelkinsgray.com
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Our podcast started out as a dream to help build strong marriages and families because when we were hurting the most (that 7 year struggle is real!) and couldn’t afford therapy, we didn’t know where to turn. We didn’t want anyone else to feel the same way, so we created a place and space where people could listen and learn in a safe environment. 

We have learned and grown so much since that first episode drop 7 years ago. In many ways, we’ve grown up together and watched our kids grow up too. It has been a blessing to walk this road together. Cheers to 2026 and all that it brings. 

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Some #spotify wins for the IMbetween podcast this past year. Thanks to all of our listeners and Podcast Family for journeying with us and trusting us with your time. 

Our podcast started out as a dream to help build strong marriages and families because when we were hurting the most (that 7 year struggle is real!) and couldn’t afford therapy, we didn’t know where to turn. We didn’t want anyone else to feel the same way, so we created a place and space where people could listen and learn in a safe environment. 

We have learned and grown so much since that first episode drop 7 years ago. In many ways, we’ve grown up together and watched our kids grow up too. It has been a blessing to walk this road together. Cheers to 2026 and all that it brings. 

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Our podcast started out as a dream to help build strong marriages and families because when we were hurting the most (that 7 year struggle is real!) and couldn’t afford therapy, we didn’t know where to turn. We didn’t want anyone else to feel the same way, so we created a place and space where people could listen and learn in a safe environment. 

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