148: How To Break The Pattern Of People Pleasing and Confidently Live Your Life with Karen Ehman
In Episode 148, we are chatting with Karen Ehman about How to Break The Pattern of People Pleasing and Confidently Live Your Life. As a self-professing recovering people-pleaser, this interview was so helpful!
As we enter into the holidays, there are many times we bend over backward or say “YES!” to many situations that we look back and wish we had said no. Whether it’s packing the calendar with holiday parties, or hosting Christmas dinner for the family because, “No one else will do it and then what will happen?!” this episode will help you realize if you are a people pleaser or not. This interview will also give you practical steps about how you can implement boundaries with the pushers, pouters, guilt bombers, and others who try to call the shots in your life.
IN This Episode, You’ll Hear About:
- The prison of people pleasing
- How to know if you are a people pleaser or not
- What life looks like for someone who isn’t a people pleaser
- Is there ever a right time to please others?
- How people pleasers often lie
- Practical steps you can take to implement boundaries with the pushers, pouters, guilt bombers, and others who try to call the shots in your life
Resources Mentioned IN This Podcast:
- Pick up a copy of Karen’s latest book, When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable
- Listen to our previous podcast with Karen, 7 Ways To Breathe Life Back Into Your Marriage
- Truth Bomb Scriptures free PDF from Karen Ehman
Quotes and TWeets:
- People pleasers often lie…deception in the life of a people pleaser gets cleverly cloaked as concern and care. @karen_ehman
- There’s a difference between feeling convicted by God to take action and being guilt-bombed and shamed by someone. Shut the door on shame! @karen_ehman
- We all people-please for different reasons: some of us are achievers and the ultimate achievement is having everyone like us. Others of us are peacemakers and we don’t want there to be any awkwardness or tensions, so we give in to go along. Some of us are perfectionists, and to us perfection is no-drama, so we just do what others want us to do. @karen_ehman
- You can say no to a friend, but still say yes to the friendship. Just because you say no to a friend doesn’t mean the friendship is over. @karen_ehman
- People-Pleasers: We can learn to tuck a hard truth into an envelope of kindness and not be false or deceptive any more. @karen_ehman
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Meet Karen EHman:
Karen Ehman is a Proverbs31 Ministries speaker and New York Times bestselling author. Described as profoundly practical, engagingly funny, and downright real, her passion is to help women to live their priorities and love their lives as they serve God and others.
Karen writes for Encouragement For Today, an online devotional that reaches over four million women daily. She also contributes to the First Five teaching team, an app designed to help you spend the first five minutes of every day reading the Bible.
