89: 6 Relationship Lessons From The Netflix Movie Marriage Story (Part 1)

March 2, 2020

100% of married couples have conflict. But, not 100% of married couples know how to resolve their conflict. We recently watched the Netflix movie, Marriage Story. While it is heartbreaking to watch a marriage literally fall apart, the movie points out some very important relationship lessons that can make or break a marriage.

In Episode 89, Daniel and Christina discuss 6 crucial relationship lessons from the Netflix movie, Marriage Story. Whether you have watched the movie or not, these 6 points will help you re-center and re-focus your marriage on the path to growth, connection, respect, and love for one another. Make sure to tune into Part 2 as well.

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In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

Important marriage lessons from the Netflix movie Marriage Story
How marriage is hard, but divorce is harder
What bids are and why they are crucial to your relationship
The importance of learning to resolve conflict with your spouse

Resources Mentioned During the Episode:

Want to find out more about bids? Read Dr. John Gottman’s books The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships and What Makes Love Last? How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal
Tune into our previous episodes about resolving conflict:
- Episode 19: How to Handle and Resolve Conflict
- Episode 37: One of The Greatest Secrets to a Successful Marriage
- Episode 61: I Think I’ve Married The Wrong Person
- Episode 69: Enneagram and Communication Styles (with Lauren Gray)
- Episode 70: Resolving Conflict with the Enneagram (with Lauren Gray)
- Episode 86: The Good, The Hard, and The Beautiful
Curious about how the Enneagram can help your marriage? Check out Beth and Jeff McCord’s book, Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage
Listen to Part 2 of 6 Relationship Lessons From The Netflix Movie Marriage Story

Quotables & Tweetables:

“Getting divorced with a kid can be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. It’s like a death without a body.” @marriagestory
Walking away from conflict does not solve it nor does it end it. @imbetweenshow
Marriage is hard, divorce is harder. @imbetweenshow
Maybe it’s not the depth of intimacy in conversations that matters. Maybe it doesn’t even matter whether couples agree or disagree. Maybe the important thing is how you pay attention to each other, no matter what your spouse is talking about or doing. @gottmaninst
Simply put, successful couples are attentive. They listen, and they put their phones down when the other person wants to chat. @gottmaninst
Gottman found when couples break up, it’s usually not because of issues like big fights or infidelity. More often, it’s a result of the resentment and distance that builds up over time when partners continually turn away from bids for connection.@gottmaninst
Seek to understand the situation and your spouse’s feelings. @imbetweenshow
Assumicide is when we incorrectly believe we know another person’s thoughts, feelings, and motivations. We assume we understand why they are behaving in a particular way, and then we respond without asking clarifying questions. @enneagram_coach