41: How to Live Your Best Marriage

October 29, 2018

In Episode 41 of The IMbetween Podcast, Daniel and Christina Im continue the discussion about the importance of love and respect in a marriage.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

A recap of what the Crazy Cycle is and why we need to get off of it
A synopsis of what the Energizing Cycle is
How to stay on the Energizing Cycle
Husband and wife specific acronyms to help you stay on the Energizing Cycle

Resources Mentioned During the Episode:

Make sure to listen to the first episode in this series: Episode 37: One of the Greatest Secrets to a Successful Marriage
Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs – This book is amazing and goes into further detail about the COUPLE and CHAIR acronyms we talk about in this episode.
Audibletrial.com/imbetween – grab your FREE book when you sign up for a free 30-day Audible trial
COUPLE Acronym for Husbands:
- C – Closeness: remember that your wife wants to connect
- O – Openness: remember that a woman wants to talk about things
- U – Understanding: women don’t need their man to “fix” her…she just needs you to listen
- P – Peacemaking: your wife wants to have things resolved between the two of you and will move toward you to get this done
- L – Loyalty: she wants and needs to know you’re committed
- E – Esteem: she wants you to honor, cherish, and treasure her
CHAIRS Acronym for Wives:
- C – Conquest: learn to appreciate his desire to work and achieve
- H – Hierarchy: deals with appreciating his to protect and provide
- A – Authority: covers appreciating this desire to serve and to lead
- I – Insight: touches on appreciating his desire to analyze and counsel
- R – Relationship: helps you understand his desire for shoulder-to-shoulder friendship
- S – Sexuality: explains his desire for sexual intimacy
1 Corinthians 7:5: “Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self control.”

Quotables:

“The “Energizing Cycle” helps us show love and respect on a daily basis.”
“Husbands— can you think of a way this week to show your wife that you will be loyal to her forever?”
“Probably the only time you will hear your wife say, “You don’t respect me” is when you dismiss her opinion.”
“Wives, we need to realize that our husbands are content just being with us…and not always talking.”
“Your husband has a need you do not have, and that need is met in a way that feels unnatural to you.. But, as you are just being with him, shoulder to shoulder, his fondness for you will grow inexplicably. It really doesn’t make a lot of sense, but the simple truth is he just needs you to be there.” – Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
“For your wife, respect is a part of love.”