22: How to Talk to Your Kids About Porn with Dr. Simon Sheh

In Episode 22 of The IMbetween Podcast, Daniel and Christina Im interview Dr. Simon Sheh about talking to your children about pornography. 

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

• The appropriate age to talk to your children about pornography
• How to bring up the topic of porn to your children
• Why it is important to help your children feel safe and keep the conversational lines open
• How to explain the serious consequences of porn
• How porn is a drug/medication
• How to safeguard your home from porn
• How to help guard your children against porn exposure outside of the home
• The differences between guilt and shame
• The consequences of shame
• How shame can also attack the parents and what to do

Resources Mentioned During the Episode:

• Pure at Heart: A Man’s Guide to Purity in a Sexualized World by Dr. Simon Sheh
• Dr. Simon Sheh’s personal website
• Good Picture Bad Picture Jr.:A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds by Kristen Jenson (for ages 3 to 6)
• Good Picture Bad Picture: Porn Proofing Today’s Young Kids by Kristen Jenson (for ages 7 to 11)
• Covenant Eyes – Internet accountability and filtering
• Circle with Disney – Parent controls and internet filtering
• The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown – Dr. Simon Sheh refers to this book
• Fight the New Drug – an educational website about learning about porn as a drug
• Over 18 – a documentary about a young boy addicted to porn

Quotables:

• “Have you ever seen anything on the internet that has made you feel uncomfortable?”
• “The porn experience is a drug experience.”
• “Porn, cocaine, and alcohol target the same area of the middle brain.”
• “Every parent has the right to control the environment of their own home.”
• “You are the Operational Manager of the home. You set the value, the mission, the vision of your home.”
• “We cannot protect our children 100%.”
• “Shame giving behavior makes the child feel like there is something wrong with them.”
• “The opposite of shame is respect.”
• “Shame is always about the person.”
• “Pornography addiction is a symptom.”
• “Your value as a parent is WAY bigger than the porn problem you are facing at home.”
• “Name the ‘shame attack.'”
• “Treat shame like a person.”
• “A bad name is better than no name.”

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