21: The Importance of Continuing to Ask Good Questions
In Episode 21 of The IMbetween Podcast, Daniel and Christina Im talk about why it is important to ask thought-provoking questions in every stage of your relationship.
In This Episode, You Will Hear About:
- Why we highly recommend pre-marital counseling
- Why it is important to continue to ask good questions while married
- Good questions to ask your partner/fiancee/spouse to open up honest communication
- How your cultural norms can determine your relationships with your spouse and extended family
Resources Mentioned During the Episode:
- Episode 17 – Christina refers to this episode about finances
- Episode 19 – Daniel refers to this episode about conflict
- 101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged by H. Norman Wright
- Dating Questions:
- Pretend you and your fiancée are on a game show. Answer random questions like: What is my favorite chocolate bar? Favorite car? Favorite color?
- What is your greatest fear or concern about getting married? (DON’T ask this question on your first date!)
- What are 5 reasons a person would want to spend the rest of their life with you? And 3 reasons they wouldn’t?
- What have you learned from your previous relationships that will make you a better partner for someone at this time?
- What qualities do you see in your parents that you expect to see in your future spouse?
- How much do you value personal time to reflect, study, or create?
- Engagement Questions:
- When a person marries, they sever the cord of dependency on and alleging to their parents. If we marry, which of these will be the most difficult to sever and why?
- What are the questions about me you’ve always wanted to ask, but never have?
- What do you think about pornography in our future home?
- What are five adjectives you would select to describe your relationship with your father?
- What are five adjectives you would select to describe your relationship with your mother?
- Marriage Questions:
- When you are sick, how do you want others to respond to you? When a significant person in your life is sick, how do you respond?
- When do you feel most loved by me? And respected by me?
- In your opinion, what is the one thing we’ve argued about the most in the past 90 days?
- How can I better show my appreciation to you?
- What are three of the most vivid memories you can recall from birth to age 18?
- What are the areas of your life you must control and those areas in your life you would like to control?
- What about your partner makes you feel proud of them?
- What are some of the biggest fears in your life?
- Matthew 11:28-30 “Come to me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take up my yoke and learn from me, because I am lowly and humble in heart, and you find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
Quotables:
- “We continue to change. We don’t want to grow apart.”
- “These questions are NOT for texting or e-mailing.”
- “In relationships, the past is the best predictor for the future unless there is an intentional change.”
- “What you are afraid of speaks a lot of what you care for, what you value, who and what you love.”
Subscribe and Connect With Us:
- Apple Podcasts
- Stitcher
- Google Play
- Spotify
- Instagram – @imbetweenshow
- Twitter – @imbetweenshow
- Facebook – @imbetweenshow
And don’t forget to subscribe to our podcast, so that you will never miss an episode!
