169: How to Affair Proof Your marriage with Braden and Kristen Hafner

What is an affair, how do they start, and how can you affair proof your marriage? In Episode 169, we interview Braden and Kristen Hafner on common reasons marriages are susceptible to affairs, the role of trust in affair-proofing your marriage, how to identify potential vulnerabilities in your marriage, and how to rebuild trust and recover from infidelity if it has already occurred in your marriage.

IN This Episode, You’ll Hear About The Following:

• The definition of an affair
• The role of social media in affairs
• How to affair-proof your marriage by building trust, maintaining open communication, and nurturing intimacy
• What to do if there has been infidelity in your marriage

Resources Mentioned IN This EPisode:

• Pure Victory Podcast with Braden Hafner and Matt Cline
• FamilyLife Canada
• FamilyLife Weekend Getaway Conferences
• Hope Restored: A Marriage Intensive Experience

Quotes And Tweets:

• “Any inappropriate interaction is an instance where the enemy is trying to draw a line or a division between you two as a couple. He wants to attack you and pull you apart, so you have to come together as a team.”

Discussion Prompts For YOu As A Couple:

1. How do you feel about emotional affairs and their potential impact on our marriage? Do you think emotional infidelity can be as damaging as physical infidelity?
2. Have you ever experienced or observed a situation where small choices and compromises led to the development of an emotional affair? How do you think we can prevent such situations from arising in our relationship?
3. When it comes to social media, what boundaries do you think we should establish to maintain a healthy balance and avoid the risk of affairs? How can we ensure that our social media activity aligns with our commitment to each other?
4. How do we currently prioritize building trust in our relationship? Are there any specific ways we can enhance our open and honest communication to strengthen the foundation of trust between us?
5. What are your thoughts on the idea of having full transparency in access to each other’s phones, social media, and relationships with the opposite sex? Would you be comfortable implementing such measures in our relationship?
6. How do we currently nurture and cultivate intimacy in our marriage? Are there any aspects of our relationship where you feel we could put in more effort to deepen our connection?
7. What specific actions or habits do you think we can adopt to proactively strengthen our marriage and protect it from potential infidelity? How can we work together to create a solid foundation that minimizes the risk of affairs?
8. Have you ever considered seeking professional counseling or support for our relationship? How do you feel about the idea of exploring it, even if we haven’t experienced infidelity? What potential benefits do you think it could bring to our marriage?
9. How do we currently prioritize our relationship in our daily lives? Are there any areas where you feel we could be more intentional or proactive in strengthening our connection? How can we ensure that our marriage remains a top priority amidst life’s demands?

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