154: Practical Ways To Have a Healthier Relationship with Your Mother-In-Law or Daughter-In-Law with Barbara and Stacy Reaoch
Whether you’re a bride-to-be, a mother-in-law-to-be, or a woman who has been braving the in-law relationship for decades, every daughter-in-law and mother-in-law needs help navigating their relationship sometimes. In Episode 154, we chat with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law duo, Barbara and Stacy Reaoch, about practical ways the in-law relationship can genuinely thrive in the midst of difficulty.
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In This Episode, You’Ll Hear About:
- What the Biblical term, “Leave and cleave” means and how to practice this Biblical principle while still honouring your parents.
- Practical steps for making peace with your in-law (even if you don’t agree with them).
- How the son or father-in-law can help foster a loving and caring relationship between mother and daughter-in-law.
- Words of encouragement for those who are feeling helpless and hopeless about their in-law relationship.
Resources Mentioned In This Episode:
- Barbara and Stacy’s book, Making Room For Her: Biblical Wisdom for a Healthier Relationship with Your Mother-In-Law or Daughter-In-Law
- Listen to our previous podcast episodes about the in-law relationship:
Quotes and Tweets:
- Just because we are all Christians, doesn’t mean that we will see everything eye-to-eye. – Stacy Reaoch
- Don’t consider the differences as a threat. Consider them as a gift because the differences can strengthen your relationship in the long run. – Barb Reaoch
- Over time, I would come to see my daughter-in-law as a sister in Christ and continue to love her more and more, knowing that these differences are God’s gift working out more Christ-like qualities in me. – Barb Reaoch
- There’s a settledness in my heart that my daughter-in-law is family. We are family together and I am committed to loving and relating well to her. At the same time, recognizing that we are two different people. – Barb Reaoch
- What I wish I had known then is that my role as a mother-in-law is to listen and to show respect and value for this young woman, for this newly married couple. They are setting their priorities for their family and I’m the support team to that. I’m to come along and help carry the burdens that they have…not place more burdens on her. – Barb Reaoch
- Take an interest in your mother-in-law. How can you come alongside her and enjoy some of the things she enjoys? Be a student of your mother-in-law and look for ways that you can show love to her. Trust that God can change people and ultimately He is going to change you. – Stacy Reaoch
- Mother-in-laws: be sure you are cleaving well to your husband. Ensure that you aren’t gossiping about your daughter-in-law to him. Instead, focus on your love relationship as a couple and grow closer together and God in this phase of your lives. – Barb Reaoch
- Mother-in-laws: Love her [daughter-in-law] first. And God will build that habit of love in your heart that will pull your feelings along in time. True hope doesn’t come from our changed circumstances; true hope comes from God. Remember that He is mostly concerned with your relationship with Him. He will use even disappointment and heartache to strengthen your love for Him. – Barb Reaoch
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Meet Barbara And Stacy Reaoch:
Barbara Reaoch, the author of A Better Than Anything Christmas (2020), is the former director of the children’s division at Bible Study Fellowship International. Her home is Minneapolis, Minn., with her husband Ron. Prior to her role at BSF, Barbara and Ron lived in Cape Town, South Africa, to teach Bible Study Fellowship classes. They also worked with the Rafiki Foundation to train young women in job and life skills. You can connect with her at www.barbarareaoch.com.
Stacy Reaoch is a pastor’s wife, mother of four, and the author of Wilderness Wanderings: Finding Contentment in the Desert Times of Life. She has written for various ministries including Desiring God, The Gospel Coalition, and Revive Our Hearts. Stacy and her husband, Ben, (Barbara’s son) live in Pittsburgh, Penn., with their children. You can find more about Stacy and her writings at www.stacyreaoch.com.
