122: Mindful Parenting: Learning To Respond Instead Of Scream
Raise your hand if you’ve ever yelled at your child? And in the moment it felt good to blow off some steam, but afterward, you feel terribly guilty, right? We know how it feels because we used to be serial screamers. Thankfully, both of us have learned and grown through these experiences. In episode 122, Daniel and Christina share what it means to be a mindful parent and how we can learn to respond to our feelings of stress, anger, and frustration, instead of scream.
In This Episode, You Will Hear About:
- What mindful parenting is
- Why we tend to scream at our kids when we are stressed
- How to recognize your emotional triggers and hotspots
- The importance of self-care
- 3 key factors to mindful parenting:
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Notice your own feelings when you’re in conflict with your child
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Learn to pause before responding in anger
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Listen carefully to a child’s viewpoint even when you disagree with it
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Resources Mentioned During the Episode:
- Episode 102: How Our Brains React In Crisis
- Episode 91: Why COVID Is Making Us Break Up With Our Phones
- Episode 108: 7 Keys To Resiliency For The Exhausted Parent
- The Whole Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel Siegel
- Mindful Parenting: Simple and Powerful Solutions for Raising Creative, Engaged, Happy Kids in Today’s Hectic World by Kristen Race
- Printable Feeling Wheel by The Gottman Institute
Quotes and Tweets:
- We get to model to our kids how grown-ups react to stress. We can teach our kids that they can pause and choose to respond instead of yell. But, it starts with us. @imbetweenshow
- Mindful parenting means learning to manage our own emotions and behaviors to teach our kids how to manage theirs. It’s learning to regulate ourselves before we can model regulation for our children. @imbetweenshow
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Unfortunately, when we’re stressed out, exhausted, and overwhelmed, we can’t be available for our children. @imbetweenshow
- Mindful parenting does not mean being the perfect parent. @imbetweenshow
- Being a mindful parent means that you pay attention to what you’re feeling. @imbetweenshow
- Mindful parenting means that instead of pulling out your phone to mindlessly scroll to ignore what you are feeling, you choose to ask yourself, “What is going on in my mind, my heart, and my body?” @imbetweenshow
- Mindful parenting does not mean that you will not get angry or upset, but acting on these difficult emotions mindlessly is what compromises our parenting. @imbetweenshow
- We get to choose how we respond and how we react if we take the time to slow down. @imbetweenshow
- Self-care is not selfish, it is necessary. @imbetweenshow
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