120: Adult Friendships 201: Why Some Friendships Change Over Time (And How To Be Okay With That)
Do you find yourself frustrated with a relationship in your life? Perhaps you’ve been ghosted and you aren’t sure what you did. Perhaps you constantly feel aggravated by a person who you were once close with. It is natural for friendships to change over time, but it can cause hurt, confusion, and frustration if you aren’t sure why it happened. In Episode 120, Daniel and Christina continue their conversation about Adult Friendships. They discuss how to know which category of relationship a person belongs in and how to discern if you are expecting someone to give what they are incapable or unwilling to give.
In This Episode, You Will Hear About:
- The reason why some friendships change over time and what to do about it (especially if you are hurt)
- The next steps to take after understanding the 4 categories of relationships
- Learn to discern who is in your life, what category they are currently in, and whether they should actually be there
- How to readjust relationships to lessen frustration and journey with others in love, grace, and freedom
Resources Mentioned During the Episode:
- Relational Intelligence: The People Skills You Need For The Life Of Purpose You Want by Dharius Daniels
- Why Friendship Still Matters
- Enneagram and Communication Styles
- Resolving Conflict with the Enneagram
- Adult Friendships 101: What They Didn’t Teach You In School
- Printable Feeling Wheel by The Gottman Instititute
Quotes and Tweets:
- All of us must be willing to hit the pause button on certain relationships when necessary to allow time for reflection. This is an important aspect of Relational Intelligence. @DhariusDaniels
- Our emotions are messengers. They can vocalize the inner workings of our soul. – Dan Allender and Tremper Longman
- Unfortunately, our emotional attachment to others will sometimes blind us to the reality of where they are in life and whether it is safe for us to be in relationship with them. @DhariusDaniels
- Why do you need to spend so much time reflecting and evaluating your relationships? Because who you choose to be in relationship matters. It effects your life and theirs.
- It’s not being self-centered; it’s about stewardship. You must be a good steward of your life and be clear relationally on what you need. @DhariusDaniels
- While reflection is an internal process, evaluation is an external exercise. This exercise should not be confused with making judgement’s about someone’s character. It is more about evaluating your personal experiences with a person and determining what that means and says to you.@DhariusDaniels
- If we are frequently frustrated in our relationships, we must learn to see frustration as our friend. Frustration is an indication that some adjustments need to be made. @DhariusDaniels
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