122: Mindful Parenting: Learning To Respond Instead Of Scream

November 16, 2020

Raise your hand if you’ve ever yelled at your child? And in the moment it felt good to blow off some steam, but afterward, you feel terribly guilty, right? We know how it feels because we used to be serial screamers. Thankfully, both of us have learned and grown through these experiences. In episode 122, Daniel and Christina share what it means to be a mindful parent and how we can learn to respond to our feelings of stress, anger, and frustration, instead of scream.

In This Episode, You Will Hear About:

What mindful parenting is
Why we tend to scream at our kids when we are stressed
How to recognize your emotional triggers and hotspots
The importance of self-care
3 key factors to mindful parenting:
- Notice your own feelings when you’re in conflict with your child
- Learn to pause before responding in anger
- Listen carefully to a child’s viewpoint even when you disagree with it

Resources Mentioned During the Episode:

Quotes and Tweets:

We get to model to our kids how grown-ups react to stress. We can teach our kids that they can pause and choose to respond instead of yell. But, it starts with us. @imbetweenshow
Mindful parenting means learning to manage our own emotions and behaviors to teach our kids how to manage theirs. It’s learning to regulate ourselves before we can model regulation for our children. @imbetweenshow
Unfortunately, when we’re stressed out, exhausted, and overwhelmed, we can’t be available for our children. @imbetweenshow
Mindful parenting does not mean being the perfect parent. @imbetweenshow
Being a mindful parent means that you pay attention to what you’re feeling. @imbetweenshow
Mindful parenting means that instead of pulling out your phone to mindlessly scroll to ignore what you are feeling, you choose to ask yourself, “What is going on in my mind, my heart, and my body?” @imbetweenshow
Mindful parenting does not mean that you will not get angry or upset, but acting on these difficult emotions mindlessly is what compromises our parenting. @imbetweenshow
We get to choose how we respond and how we react if we take the time to slow down. @imbetweenshow
Self-care is not selfish, it is necessary. @imbetweenshow