162: Raising Kind Kids Who Include Others

Are you raising kids who are kind and compassionate? It is critical to demonstrate to our children what it means to include others instead of excluding them. In episode 162, we share with you some ideas of how we can raise kids who are “includers” by modelling what that looks like.  

In This Episode, You’ll Hear About:

• The 3 aspects of forgiveness:
  1. Redemption
  2. Restoration
  3. Reconciliation
• Where you can become an “includer”:
  1. Become an “includer” in your work
  2. Become an “includer” in your family
  3. Become a family of “includes”
• How you can become a family that includes others by practicing the BLESS acronym
  • Begin with prayer
  • Listen
  • Eat together
  • Serve
  • Share your story

Resources Mentioned IN This Episode:

• You Are What You Do: Aand Six Other Lies About Work, Life, and Love by Daniel Im
• Printable Feeling Wheel by The Gottman Institute
• The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place by Andy Crouch
• Ep: 36 Netiquette: Teaching Our Kids Online Manners
• Ep: 62 Parenting In Our Digital Age
• Ep: 87 How To Find Your Family’s Purpose
• Ep: 115 Practicing Hospitality In Every Season with Myquillyn Smith

Quotes And Tweets:

• By putting down our phones and spending intentional time with our family, we are modelling to our kids how to include others and not turn to devices when they are feeling awkward and don’t know anyone. – @imbetweenshow
• Parents are more physically present in their children’s lives than in generations past, especially being able to work from home more often. But, parents are not necessarily emotionally present. Engagement between parents and children tends to be high-tech and low-quality. – @imbetweenshow
• While forgiveness may never have an ending, forgiveness always has a beginning—the beginning is when we choose to forgive. – @imbetweenshow

Scripture Passages Mentioned In This Episode:

• Romans 5:8
• Romans 8:38-39
• Isaiah 61:3
• Romans 12:9-21

Questions For Personal Reflection:

• How can you become more of an “includer” in your work and family?
• Does being on your phone/social media fill you or drain you? If it drains you, are there any changes you’d like to make to the amount of time you spend on your phone?
• Is there anyone you need to forgive from your past? Is there anyone that has excluded you (either knowingly or unknowingly) that you need to forgive?
• Do you need to accept and receive forgiveness for yourself for the way you treated others?

Discussion Prompts For You As A Couple:

• What steps can we take to become a family of “includers?”
• How can we incorporate BLESS into our lives? (Begin with prayer, Listen, Eat together, Serve, Share your story)
• Come up with a mission statement for your family and base it on a verse in the Bible
  • If you need some ideas, check out Ep 87: How To Find Your Family’s Purpose, which includes a free printable to help you create a guiding statement