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150: The 4 Habits of Raising Joy-Filled Kids with Chris Coursey and Marcus Warner

December 13, 2021

We have Chris Coursey and Marcus Warner back on The IMbetween Podcast to talk to them about The 4 Habits of Raising Joy-Filled Kids. This interview is jam-packed with practical and useful principles of how to raise your kids to become happy, confident, and productive adults. Their insight about the difference between healthy and toxic shame is fascinating. If you grew up in a shame-based household, you need to listen in.

4 Habits of raising joy-filled kids Book | Marcus warner’s Website | Chris coursey’s Website |
How to Strengthen your marriage in 15 Minutes interview

You’ll Never Regreat Investing In Joy!

Marcus and Chris have spent years studying human relationships and were previously on our podcast talking about the connection between joy and marriage. Now they offer parenting principles derived from the way our brains are hardwired. As you’ll soon find out, joy isn’t some abstract concept, but a neurochemical reality that arises from the choices we make.

Listen to this episode to learn how to make the parenting decisions that bring joy to yourself and then to those young lives in your hands. You’ll never regret investing in joy! 

In this Episode, You’ll Hear About:

  • How families exist to grow joy.
  • Why tansforming low-joy families into high-joy families can change the world.
  • The link between joy and maturity and how many of our parenting issues comes down to a lack of maturity.
  • The difference between toxic shame and healthy shame.
  • What the 4 habits of raising joy-filled kids:
    1. Attunement
    2. Building bounce 
    3. Correcting with care
    4. Developing disciplines relationally 

Resources Mentioned During The EPisode:

  • The 4 Habits of Raising Joy-Filled Kids
  • The 4 Habits of Joy Filled Marriages: How 15 MInutes A Day Will Help You Stay In Love
  • Previous interview: How to Strengthen Your Marriage in 15 Minutes
  • Hear more about attunement in our interview with Dr. Josh Straub: Healthy Habits To Teach Your Kids Who Worry A Lot

Quotes and Tweets:

  • Families exist to grow joy. – Marcus Warner and Chris Coursey
  • Joy-filled kids see life as an adventure. They live with confidence that they can do hard things, develop curiousity and creativity, succeed at what is important, and recover from failure. – Marcus Warner and Chris Coursey
  • Joy-filled kids learn how to find the joy that is available to each of us every day of our lives and develop the skills to bounce back from hard experiences. – Marcus Warner and Chris Coursey
  • Parenting is all about building the habits that grow our own capacity for joy and instilling those habits into our children. – Marcus Warner and Chris Coursey
  • When kids are motivated by joy, they feel like they can do anything. – Marcus Warner and Chris Coursey
  • Our goal in correcting with care is forming character, not just correcting behaviour. – Marcus Warner and Chris Coursey
  • Sometimes we rescue our kids for our own benefit rather than theirs. – Marcus Warner and Chris Coursey

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Meet Marcus Warner and Chris Coursey:

Marcus Warner is the president of Deeper Walk International. He is a former pastor and college professor who has written several books including Understanding the Wounded Heart, What Every Believer Should Know About Spiritual Warfare, and Rare Leadership. Marcus trains hundreds of leaders and equips thousands of Christians each year across the globe. For more information, go to deeperwalkinternational.org

Chris Coursey is an ordained minister, pastoral counselor, published author, and international speaker. He and his wife, Jen, lead and design the THRIVE Training Program that uses brain-based exercises to train leaders, families, and communities in the 19 relational skills and the Immanuel Lifestyle. For more information, go to happyhappymarriage.org

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