64: Why Kids Need Boundaries

In Episode 64, Daniel and Christina discuss why boundaries are important for children and ways for parents to implement boundaries with their kids.

“A boundary is a “property line” that defines a person; it defines where one person ends and someone else begins. If we know where a person’s boundaries are, we know what we can expect this person to take control of.” – Dr. Cloud
“A child needs to know where they begin, what they need to take responsibility for, and what they do not need to take responsibility for. In order for children to learn who they are and what they are responsible for, their parents have to have clear boundaries with them and relate to them in ways that help them learn their own boundaries.” – Dr. Cloud
“The essence of boundaries is self-control, responsibility, freedom and love. These are the bedrock of the spiritual life. Along with loving and obeying God, what could be a better outcome of parenting than that?” – Dr. Cloud
“We need to teach our children the difference between loving and serving others versus trying to rescue others.”
“What would it look like to congratulate failure and not just success?”
“Let’s create a family culture where being real is more valued than being perfect.”
“If we can realize that boundaries are key to making any relationship work, then we will understand why our children need to learn boundaries.”
“Our children need to learn what they have power over, and what they don’t, and how to tell the difference.”