In Episode 23 of The IMbetween Podcast, Daniel and Christina Im interview Dr. Simon Sheh about pornography, the reasons behind porn addiction, and what to do if you or your spouse is addicted to porn.
In This Episode, You Will Hear About:
- Why pornography is so alluring and addictive
- How porn is a highly addictive drug medication
- How shame issues can lead to pornography addiction
- The differences between guilt and shame
- The chemical and emotional reasoning behind porn addiction
- How to share with your spouse about your porn addiction
- How your spouse can help you recover and heal from porn addiction
- How porn addiction affects the attachment bond between spouses
Resources Mentioned During the Episode:
- Pure at Heart: A Man’s Guide to Purity in a Sexualized World by Dr. Simon Sheh
- Dr. Simon Sheh’s personal website
- Episode 22 – How to Talk to Your Kids About Porn (Interview with Dr. Simon Sheh)
- Daring Greatly by Dr. Brene Brown
Quotables:
- “Pornography is a drug used to relieve the emotional pain of shame.”
- “Shame triggers a thousand more pains than guilt.”
- “A lot of men don’t realize they aren’t looking for sex. They are looking for soothing comfort.”
- “100% of women tell me that they can handle the porn, but they cannot handle the secrets and the lies.”
- “They don’t realize they carry all this pain and shame.”
- “Shame attacks can lead to depression, anxiety, and addiction.”
- “Shame receiving behaviors are pleasing, performing, and perfecting.”
- “A shame-giver is a shame-receiver.”
- “Jesus is not just our sin sacrifice. He is our shame bearer. We don’t need to carry that shame anymore.”
- “Porn addiction/affairs are serious relationship injuries.”
- “Every time you turn to porn, you injure the relationship. You injure your wife. You injure the attachment bond.”
- “The attachment bond says, ‘I will never leave you. I will never drop you. I will not hurt you.'”
- “The worst thing a man can do to a woman is to make her feel alone; to make her not feel safe.”
- “The worst thing a woman can do to a man is to make him feel inadequate all the time.”
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